Written by Daisy Osborne
It’s that time of year again when the ‘new year new me’ brigade is plastered all over social media only to have most of us drop our new year goals by the beginning of February. In a bid to break a habit of breaking habits, lets use this year to change the narrative around New year’s resolutions. Let’s focus on improving who we are instead of what we want to change. But before we get down to the nitty gritty let us talk about a few things that may have stopped us reaching our full potential in the past.
Do you know your non negotiables? In simple terms what can you not function with without. Could it be your morning coffee or is it removing your make up every night before bed? Making a goal nonnegotiable limits the opportunity for quitting. A successful ritual to needs to become effortless or more challenging to be without to remain permanent.
What are your beliefs about yourself? Studies show that people with low self-esteem quit on their goals earlier than people know have a kinder inner dialogue. When you talk to yourself are you motivating and encouraging? Empower yourself as you would a friend. The power to change is in the power of your own capabilities.
Who do you see yourself becoming? Keeping your ideal self in mind will keep you on the straight and narrow. Think about achievements, relationships and lifestyle. How would your ideal self-behave? Creating a vision board will help to inspire this this feeling.
So, let’s get into it:
1) No goal is too big if it is in the realm of possibility. Putting pressure on a goal that is unrealistic will end in failure. With that being said not overestimate what is achievable in a month and do not underestimate what is possible long term once you’ve created the habit.
2) What is the most exciting version of this goal? Weight loss is not exciting if all your thinking about is not wanting to be fat. But if your goal is to bounce out of bed in the morning, do some exercise that give you lots energy for the day, eat some delicious nutritious food and not be depleted of energy by bedtime that is going to empower you.
3) Create small milestones. Breaking your goal into actionable steps will make your bigger goal achievable and less daunting. Rome wasn’t built in a day and behind every successful person is a series of consistent actions. Go all in.
4) Celebrate small victories. Tracking and Celebrating your progress has been proven to boost confident and motivation building larger success in the future. Treat yourself when you succeed because who doesn’t like gifts.
5) Be consistent. It’s the tiny decisions in the moment that get you to where you want to be. If you quit that task 10% of the time, you’re going to be 10% behind where you want to be.
6) Be accountable. Take ownership of your decisions. At the end of the day the only person who is affected by your commitment is you.